I have terrible self-esteem. I read almost all of your articles. Right now, I just feel hopeless. At 5’4, I just feel like crying. I don’t know what to do. I never had a problem with my size until a few months ago. Why does it matter how long my legs are? Any advice on this subject? Do you think height matters in dating? Yeah, to some women height means everything. They’d rather date a serial killer who stands six feet than a loyal, loyal, successful, funny guy who comes in at 5’4.

They’re the equivalent of guys who insist the girls they date wear a certain bra size. It’s all about impressing other people, other people caught up in their own little insecurities. But take heart: Women exist who are confident enough in themselves that a guy’s height doesn’t matter. They’re attracted to character, sense of humor, capability (anyone who confuses height with capability is fooling herself). Their femininity is not dependent upon a man’s stature. Unfair!

They know who they are, and they know what they want, which is to love and be loved by a man who makes their happiness a priority. Now, I have known several women who refuse to date a man unless he meets a height requirement. All of these women are still alone. One of them spent a New Year’s Eve some years ago crying about her bad luck in love, and her bad luck hasn’t changed. Women liked him. He smiled big. He started dating again. A lot.

Another woman recently told me that she narrowly missed meeting the man who became her husband because she deemed him “marginally short.” Good thing she came to her senses because she fell madly in love with the guy (and he with her). My advice to you is to forget about women who’d reject you due to your height. You don’t want to date them anyway. And, keep this in mind, most healthy women would rather date a short, confident man than an overly insecure tall man any day of the week.